Posted by orchid on April 24, 2006, at 20:07:17
In reply to I get so discouraged sometimes, posted by Dinah on April 24, 2006, at 19:57:44
I think I would feel that way too, if I had had so many problems and issues in my life in the last year as you.
I think you need to give yourself the same piece of advise that you gave me - take it easy on yourself.
I think you have been doing pretty well, considering all the turmoils that have happened. I am not sure I would be as sane as you are, under that circumstances. I think a moderate depression is very much warranted in your situation, and you should allow yourself that without regretting it too much or trying to push yourself out of it.
And as to your feeling that other people seem to move on and get better, I think it is a tricky part. I claim I am better mostly these days, but still there are days when I am in pretty bad shape. When I say I am better, I mean I am reasonably ok, and functional, and not as bad as I was before. I don't mean I am happy and smiling and jumping all the time. I think that better is a relative term. Most people are content to be little better than they were - and would retire at that point and go on with their lives. I think you are not settling for that, but instead are driving yourself to get more out of life. And I think that is good in a sense, but it also might make you feel like you are constantly working on yourself.
You have been doing admirably well, and I think you should give yourself more credit than you are giving and take it more easy.
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