Posted by happyflower on April 25, 2006, at 8:29:55
In reply to Re: Why is the T relationship sometimes the hardest » happyflower, posted by daisym on April 24, 2006, at 17:27:36
> Sometimes I hate it too. I think if you really think you are getting mixed signals, bring it up. Because often talking it through either makes the feelings more OK, or helps them dissipate.
I know you understand, Daisy, probably more than most. I know I need to talk about this, but it will be so hard, and a big risk of getting hurt. But then again, I am feeling hurt anyways.> In my own head, I think these feelings make it harder to live with someone who doesn't respond to you in the way you need. It makes you super lonely to be aware that you need caring for and your SO doesn't/can't do it. I think loving your therapist in a deep, special way is different than lusting after them. Lust doesn't hurt. But the awareness of how deep you can feel for someone "you can't have" does. It hurts a lot.
I think you said everything right there! I KNOW you know what I am going through, just from reading that paragraph.
> Eventually you have to figure out how to channel the feelings and the needs elsewhere. And yet preserve the deep connection of the therapy relationship for support and safety. It is tricky and I haven't figure it out yet.Me either, let me know if you figure it out.
I am really grateful for you to help me even when you are going through a hell bigger than mine at the moment. Thank you so much.
> Mostly I just wanted to say, "I agree: X@##$^&*(#$!"Thank you for that! LOL
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