Posted by eyes2ursoul on April 30, 2006, at 17:30:51
In reply to Re: lesbian sexual feelings fantasy 4 myT, posted by Veracity on April 30, 2006, at 16:23:55
> I am a lesbian, but I really haven't experienced any sexual feelings for my therapist. But I don't think you're feeling all that different from any other client who has these feelings for her therapist, male or female.
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> Why not talk about it with your therapist? That seems like the most sure-fire way to defuse the feelings - get them out in the open. My therapist always says that uncomfortable feelings are like mushrooms, they grow in the dark. When you expose them to light, get them out in the open, they die away. And she hasn't been wrong yet!
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> Hopefully your therapist is well-trained and experienced enough to work with you through your feelings. Seriously, I have found out rather recently that the very best thing you can do in therapy is ALWAYS talk about the thing you LEAST want to talk about. If something is troubling you, you need to get it out and who better to hear it than a non-judgemental person who has your best interests in mind? The only way past it is through it, ya know?
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> Good luck. :)Hi Veracity - thanks very much for taking the time to reply to me - it was very kind of you and i think ur advice is spot on.
I did write another rerply but its kind lond and i forgot to click add name of previous poster(thats you) to the reply i sent so it just looks like another duplacte on the surface from the same ones i posted over and over by mistake earlier on.
As i said i love ur advice, the only problem is that i'm scared she will terminate me if i tell her all about the feelings and the effect she has on me now.
So as i dont want to lose her, and im in therapy
working on many other important issues too, i'm kinda hoping to sort this one out on the babble boards!Kind regards
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