Posted by pegasus on May 12, 2006, at 19:44:18
In reply to Re: llrrrpp and LarH » llrrrpp, posted by Larry Hoover on May 10, 2006, at 14:25:07
> There is something therapeutic in giving voice. The actual act of saying what I'm feeling.Yeah. And along with that, I would say that being heard is a big part of why therapy helps. I know that the first time in my life that I ever felt truly listened to was in therapy. And I loved it! My therapist seems to actually be interested in *me*. Even my husband, who is a gem, doesn't really listen to me just for the sake of hearing me. He's always got his own agenda, as do I with him. But in therapy, I can count on having a real person actually want to hear all of what I have to say. Whoa!
I think it's related to the attachment we have (or not) to our parents. Maybe if we have really healthy attachment to our parents, and they are interested in *us* and want to hear and respond to us, maybe we wouldn't end up needing therapy so much. Maybe that lack is what therapy is providing. Helping us develop past the point that we could as kids, because didn't get what we needed from our imperfect parents.
Peg
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