Posted by Dinah on November 2, 2006, at 9:23:43
In reply to Re: Exactly Racer » Daisym, posted by toojane on November 2, 2006, at 8:04:49
If it's not affecting your life now, I can't see any reason to reopen old wounds.
But is it really not affecting your life now?
I'm not sure what working through means, exactly. I hope it means learning not to let it control your life at this point, letting go of any shame a person might feel about things in their past, and being able to live a full and complete life in the now.
I'm not sure that keeping something hidden is the way to healing, because for me at least secrecy gives the thing power. Like a monster in the closet.
I don't know that I believe in catharsis for the sake of catharsis. (Although sometimes repetition does desensitize.)
But there's no denying that if someone is still experiencing problems by what happened in the past, there are usually reasons for it, and reasons that can be addressed in the openness when secrets are revealed.
But if you aren't currently experiencing problems, I see no point in reopening something that is distressing just for the sake of it.
poster:Dinah
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