Posted by Dinah on December 31, 2006, at 15:43:58
We talked about it today, or rather we talked about talking about it.
I talked about how hard it was for me to talk about a couple of topics.
One is some aspects of sex. Like when I'm hypersexual, it definitely needs to be discussed, and it needs to be assessed, and that requires some delicate discussions. But since it's so *current*, it's hard to talk about.
And the other is the dreaded body image. I told him that I was reluctant to bring it up, because I was afraid he'd feel societal convention to say no, no, you aren't really that ugly. And that's not what I need. Or that he would say, yes, ok you're ugly, and what are you going to do about it. And I didn't think that would be overly helpful. And also, I didn't want him to even think about my having a body, and don't want to draw attention to the fact by talking about it.
He said that he'd try not to agree or disagree or notice my body, and that if he forgot, I should remind him.
He really made it rather easy for me, and stayed light and good humored, just the way I needed him to be. And he questioned me with the same attitude, which made it easy for me to answer, as long as I kept my eyes averted.
Why is it that sometimes he's just so *good* at what he does? At knowing how to handle me just the right way? At hitting just the right note?
And why isn't he always that way?
poster:Dinah
thread:717920
URL: http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/psycho/20061210/msgs/717920.html