Posted by Tamar on January 20, 2007, at 18:04:58
In reply to Re: A funny thing happened… » Tamar, posted by Annierose on January 19, 2007, at 21:56:49
> *** and I had to admit that it might have been partly a distraction from the conversation we were having, or a way of establishing distance between us. ****
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> Or --- maybe letting him know how MAD you really were when all those things were happening.Exactly! He knows it.
> Besides mentioning the finger, how did he reply to your feelings of being ignored?
He asked me if I'd wondered what was on his mind. And I said that I'd imagined pretty much anything and everything. I knew what he was getting at, and in fact the first thing I thought about when all this was going on was that perhaps his partner was being unfaithful. I didn't tell him I'd had that thought because I want to think about it myself for a while before I discuss it with him. It's clearly transferential, but I don't know why. My partner isn't having an affair (unless he's *really* good at covering his tracks) and I've been behaving myself. And I don't think I could say out loud that I'd had thoughts about my therapist even having a partner, let alone that she might be unfaithful!
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