Posted by Llurpsie_Noodle on January 29, 2007, at 20:59:40
In reply to Re: Saw my pdoc/T today, posted by Deneb on January 29, 2007, at 15:50:43
Hey Deneb,
I clicked on one of the links for DBT books on your other thread (social?) and read the first few pages of the book, because I really know next to nothing about borderline personality disorder.In my 10 minutes of reading I found out a LOT more than I used to know. Forgive me it this is completely obvious to you already.
I really like the way that the authors discuss BPD as a fundamental problem in emotional regulation. I think that it probably has roots in how children are responded too as wee ones, and how they learn to interpret and modulate their own (often intense) emotional experiences. From my own experience, I know that 2-year-olds can go from happy to miserable in the space of a few moments and then back again. It's up to a child's early environment to help children get from being a 2-year-old with temper tantrums to being able to sit quietly and concentrate in kindergarten and beyond.
My personal guess is that your mom is somewhat prone to extreme emotional outbursts herself, and consequently you must have found it bewildering to learn from her example. You may not be the only one in your family with a problem, perhaps. What do you think of these ideas? Am I way off base? Please correct me or ignore me as you see fit.
At any rate, your dad can be your "rock" and that's a good resource to have. Someone to anchor your ship to when the seas get rough. Perhaps he's not too good at emotions himself, and perhaps you're not too close to him, in general. BUT your pop has proven himself to be dependable in an emergency. I bet he's dependable in real-life too, even for those little things that somehow explode when tempers flare. Am I right in that he doesn't really explode very easily, whereas your mom is pretty volatile?
Just wondering more about you and your folks. You live together and all- I bet that they are going to be part of your "healing process" one way or another. And they DO care about you.
take good care of yourself. The meaning of your behaviors will probably become more clear as you learn more about yourself. You are learning that change is not a scary thing, but sometimes it's hard to admit that change is a good thing?
I hope you can continue to grow, and learn to live with yourself without hurting yourself.
(((((Deneb)))))
-Llp.s. I will *never* knit Dr. Bob a scarf. As a fledgling knitter, I am SO impressed by your tenacity. I would never have the patience to sit there and knit row after lumpy row for someone else! I'm MUCH too selfish!!! My lumpy rows are for my own amusement ONLY. okay... I'm knitting my hubby a little pocket for his iPod. Hopefully it won't look too girly! I will FORCE him to accept it, one way or another. (one advantage to being married is that he has to admire my lumpy rows too. I demand it!)
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