Posted by allisonf on February 5, 2007, at 19:01:30
I am wondering if other people have this experience. I have had a very strong transference reaction to my therapist that I am still dealing with...but before she came along, I used to do this thing where I would develop crushes on inappropriate people (married people, teachers, bosses) and try to get close to them. In therapy, we have discussed the origins of this, ad nauseum. I am aware of aspects of my relationship with my parents that might have caused this desire to merge with these people. But for some reason I can't stop doing it.
This latest thing is a professor that I have. He is actually my professor from last semester, so now I don't have him in class anymore. And he is a PhD student, so he is close in age and experience to me. We had an e-mail exchange going and he just asked if I wanted to have coffee with him to discuss the issues. I am beside myself, giddy about it, then sober, then giddy again. We are both married, and I have no intention of cheating on my husband, but I am drawn to this guy. It just brings me back to a year or two ago, when the transference with my therapist was at its height.
Do you guys do this too--have a string of people you have feelings for or is it only your therapist? How do you make peace with it??
Thanks for your thoughts--
A
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