Posted by Happyflower on April 10, 2007, at 19:42:46
In reply to Re: How come my T face seems so bright? » Happyflower, posted by sunnydays on April 10, 2007, at 19:22:21
Hi Sunnydays,
I believe we are all different, no 2 situations are alike. Some have more issues, some have less but take more time, some are in forever therapy, it varies so much. In the end, there will always be problems, this is what life is, so expecting little or no problems when we terminate therapy is really setting us up for disapointment and unrealistic expectations
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I really pushed myself, EMDR probably helped things go faster than traditional desensaization therapy. I was also ready too.
There are things we can do independently from our T's too. Some of the stuff I did, was my idea, he supported me, but it was me who really pushed myself to have a better life. I have always been a fighter, fighter for my life, and now fighter for a better life. I have a lot of determation, always have. I have always been able to function very well in spite of my problems.
But yeah, I still have some self esteem problems, I think I am too fat, but I am doing something about it. Most people have some self esteem challenges. I know even my T does.
I guess one thing to keep in mind, and maybe you know this already. But it was ME who changed, my T helped me, but I did what it taked for me. I believe we each have to dig deep inside of us to make it happen. But only when we are truely ready. Our T's can't fix us, but we can. So I don't know if that helps or not, but remember we are all different.
If you haven't been through desensation therapy yet for your PTSD, the symptoms will probably still occure. But I treated the deep issues of the causes, and I no longer have the disorder. But it is painful work. I am not on any meds, nor did I need any. I think some have to be somewhat stable to even go into this intense therapy sometimes with the help of drugs.
So don't compare yourself to others, because you really don't know their whole story, and it will only make you feel bad. Does this help?
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