Posted by Honore on August 4, 2007, at 12:07:07
In reply to Re: But I take back the subject line, posted by annierose on August 4, 2007, at 10:16:55
Sorry he was so very much more inapt than before-- but probably his mistakes and confusions add up to his being uncomfortable with how fond he is of you-- and how special to him you are.
Often people become confused and misspeak when they're conflicted about what they're feeling-- he isn't used to having such intense feelings about patients-- and it has gotten to him-- So he says it, and unsays it at the same time-- leaving you hurt and feeling undercut-- and somehow protecting himself from the feelings he really has.
I'm so sorry that ended up hurting you-- and that comment about the dog and its master-- ugh! obviously some sort of further expression of discomfort-- but puhlease-- where does he get off with comments like that.
(Imo, he needs to get analyzed-- he's not careful and conscious enough enough about what he feels and says. That was pretty bad, no matter what caused it.)
You are special though Dinah and so worthy of respect and carefulness. I'm sure he wishes to do the best for you, but I guess he's got problems with that, himself-- perhaps next time he can be more attuned to himself and you. Perhaps he can see his way to understanding more of what he did, and to undoing that, too.
Honore
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