Posted by DAisym on August 19, 2007, at 21:04:24
In reply to Feeling isolated, and kinda trapped, posted by Racer on August 19, 2007, at 2:19:26
Posting is a really good way to break through the isolation. So was shopping, even if the time was shorter than you wished and the company perhaps not as perky as she could have been. I'm sorry you are so alone in your sorrow. The whole thing sucks. I'm sure your husband wishes he knew what to say or do, and I'm sure he'd do anything to give you what you want so badly. But he seems wrapped up in his own hurt...grief is a very solitary journey. Give him time and look for other ways he might be telling you he loves you.
Realizing you need your therapist is a scary thing - and then she screwed up. *sigh* I hate that they are so human, as Spock would say. Try to remember what she does do well and hang on to those things while she is gone.
Fat, hmmm...yeah I understand the feeling. I won't insult you by saying you aren't - it is how you feel, not how you look. (I can't resist a concrete CBT kind of thing though -- you sew -- and you sew for yourself -- did you have to let out the dress? If yes, OK, you've gained a little. If not...??) Feeling fat and unhappy with your body is so uncomfortable. Particularly when the rest of the world is out of control.
Ironically - I hear Michael Buble singing, "put your head on my shoulder" as I write this and I want to just encourage you to do that. Write it all out, as much as you need to. Touch that hot spot and run away. It will cool eventually.
((((Racer)))) -- elbow to elbow
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