Posted by 10derheart on August 23, 2007, at 12:29:57
In reply to i think one of my inner kids..**TRIGGER**, posted by B2chica on August 23, 2007, at 11:40:35
B2, I don't think it has to be a 911 to call your T. I'll bet your T. would WANT you to call about this...I really do. Please think about it....
I'm sorry this is happening to you. I was thinking....can the adult part of you speak firmly to the teen....or reason with her in your head at all...even it it feels fake at first, not effective, whatever? Tell her, "no, that's NOT going to happen. That's NOT an option...I'll listen to your pain but we draw the line at anything about 'ending it all."
D*amm*t, I'm not explaining this the way I envision it in my head. Its like....not to say to her that she CAN'T think and speak about suicidal feelings, because you 'both' KNOW how deep some hurts go, and those are only natural and they are NOT bad to have. BUT - that the idea of taking charge and stating you *must* do anything is where her turn to listen starts and adult B2 takes over with love and firmness and says, "No - stop, I/we will find a different relief - together." Maybe ask her, "Don't you need to find a way to stop being scared and aching, instead of needing to die? I will do that together with you, but I won't do the other thing." Does any of that make sense?
Now, B2 this may to all total cr*p. Be careful, too, I mean - this may be too intense to take too far without your T. present, I know. I don't know where you are inside with talking to the teen or anything, and only YOU know if this is possible - or the WORST idea you ever heard. I'm just saying sometimes inner conversations like that have worked for me, with LOTS of repetition. Like a mantra - but longer, you know? It's something to fill up the scary, anxious space right after the S. thoughts come - like a plan that's in place - even if it doesn't feel like it's working, i.e., making those thoughts/feelings disappear, but at least a routine to do each time.
Please, please disregard all of this if it's useless, or worse, possibly harmful. I'm just shooting from the hip here...
((B2)) You take care and stay safe. This WILL pass...teens' moods usually change rapidly! (<weak attempt at humor) You're going to be okay....okay?
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