Posted by llurpsieNoodle on October 30, 2007, at 11:37:11
A collection of my notes
Aim to be neither survivor nor victim, rather conqueror
Career victims "always unhappy, unbelieveably demanding of others, a big chip on the shoulder, propensity for spreading ill cheer"
Identifying with the past trauma-- believing that being a part of something negative makes them positive
The section I found eerily familiar:
"Sense of comfort and belonging- Some people stay stuck in destructive and negative thought processes and =behaviors just because it is the price of admission to belong to a group of "like" people. Staying stuck in the victim mode means "having company"; therefore , moving on becomes a threat of loneliness and emotional risk... There is a sublime status given to those who have suffered, as well as a neverending wellspring of compassion, understanding, affection and attention- that is hard to give up."
Childhood trauma excused and abolved them of responsibility for the damage they'd do to themselves or others.
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