Posted by Dory on October 31, 2007, at 8:19:14
In reply to Re: struggling w T caring » Dory, posted by antigua3 on October 31, 2007, at 6:42:07
trusting someone AT ALL is hard, trusting they won't hurt me? well, that isn't really on my radar yet... Yet. i have caught him "parenting" in a way.. haven't said anything yet, but he was definitely doing it. Not liking that. i mean, i like the feelings, but not the concept. i am the person who squirms away when i get hugged in a "parental" way... i'm not sure how to explain it.. i'm just so damn pig-headed that i don't like to be told what to do and anything that has even a trace of "parent" in it feels like that's what it is.
Sneaky T... tsk tsk tsk. Thing is, i will tell him i see what he is doing.. not yet, but soon. i always do. He actually laughs when i catch him "doing therapy" with me.. if he ever uses "therapy phrases" i just give him a look and he sheepishly backs off.
my pdoc thought i'd have a hard time with most T's b/c i out-think them... i'm good with my radar, it's like a mental/emotion detector.. and i put a stop to things i can read like a book... or amuse myself by playing with them. i know, bad me. But T is different.. i **never** play games with him. i never toy with him. i like him too much, and i see the honesty in what he is doing. i think that makes all the difference, honesty. He has never gotten defensive about things he shouldn't have done, bad choices, etc... he always says that soemtimes he'll mess up... so he admits that openly. i HATE it when someone tries to excuse or cover up their behaviour.. i can see through that.
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