Posted by Racer on January 25, 2008, at 14:59:57
In reply to Can You Lose Your Mind Seriously?????, posted by Phillipa on January 25, 2008, at 12:02:38
Yes, that's flip, but this post is meant kindly:
My guess is that you're suffering intense anxiety over your decision regarding surgery. It's triggering a lot of anxiety, which is triggering dreams, and your daughter's comments about your age vis a vis plastic surgery probably contributes to the subject matter in this dream.
Now I'm going to say something which really is meant kindly, although I don't always manage to convey that intention very well: You're likely to experience intense anxiety no matter what you decide about the surgery. If you decide not to do it, you'll continue to have some anxiety about whether you should have had it. If you decide to do it, you're likely to experience some anxiety about whether you should have done it. That sort of thing is part of having a severe anxiety disorder. Your daughter's comments -- well, I won't discuss those, beyond saying that general anesthesia is much better and safer than it was even ten years ago, no matter your age.
Since you know you're going to experience anxiety about this decision, can you plan on ways to cope with it, or even just decide you'll accept that this *is* anxiety and that you will ignore it? And if you're going to be anxious anyway, would you rather be anxious with the benefits of this surgery, or without?
poster:Racer
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