Posted by Racer on February 3, 2008, at 2:19:23
In reply to Re: head banging » Daisym, posted by Maxime on February 2, 2008, at 22:45:37
> Sigh. I am really messed up.
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> Maxime
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One part of CBT -- which really isn't my favorite modality of therapy -- is learning to reframe thoughts in a more positive way. Maybe instead of saying you're "messed up," you could try to find a more generous way of expressing it? "I'm in so much pain," or "I have some habits I wish I could stop," or something else that's more neutral towards yourself? It could be like homework for therapy?I know the feeling of being messed up, but when I read your posts, all I get is a sense of deep pain. I don't get the sense of "messed up," so much as a dark pain that comes through.
I hope you'll take Daisy's advice -- she's a very smart cookie, that one. You deserve to be taken care of well, and that includes taking care of yourself -- even if that means deciding to cut rather than bang your head. (Unless the head banging involves Captain Sensible, but that's a whole 'nother topic.)
I wish you peace, and warmth.
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