Posted by MissK on February 13, 2008, at 19:27:17
In reply to Therapist Speak, posted by Daisym on February 12, 2008, at 23:10:51
>So what will? If he doesn't know what to say and I don't know what to ask for - what now?
I am not sure what you mean when you say 'therapist speak'.
I would say now you process. I've had many, many sessions after which it seemed 'what now', what do I do with 'this', what does it 'mean', why does it seem to be getting harder, not easier. As much as possible I tried to remember what explanations and understandings were offered by my T in whatever we were talking about, both in the past and in the present. Then I continue processing what is happening to me and trying to understand the connections, etc.
I've learned that what the T says and explains and helps you understand is a very big help, but it's only when you come to understandings with yourself that you really progress. It takes time and doesn't always make sense right away, not for a while sometimes. It's so personal to you that only yourself, in the end, puts together what needs to be put together to make yourself better.
>I felt small and all I really wanted was to curl up in a ball and have him hold me and protect me.
I've had that feeling and still do sometimes, but because I have relatively little transference going on with my T, I don't think of wanting it from her very often especially outside of sessions.
You are doing some hard processing. Take extra care of yourself and be good to yourself both in body and mind. The answers and understandings will come in time.
poster:MissK
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