Posted by frida on April 14, 2008, at 8:33:24
In reply to change.... maybe good, maybe not, posted by sunnydays on April 12, 2008, at 17:18:55
Dear Sunnydays,
Thank you for sharing this...i understand your feelings...
My T and I have agreed on a similar thing, because i used to email her a lot and then in session i wouldn't say a word or i wouldn't share the feelings and everything i did in an email. She wanted me to try harder there, to realize that's the best moment to share, even to feel bad, cry, feel...so we're trying. I still email her once a week mostly or twice. But we've talked about it and she told me the same.
Of course for the little girl in me it felt terrifying...it made me feel like she was asking me to handle things alone, and that i should be able to do so, but she explained to me many times (more than one session) and now i believe her :-) I think your T just wants you to connect more in session and work deeper.i understand about the split you talk about , my T says that it's hard sometimes to work through things, when i am re-experiencing it all through the eyes of a 6 year-old little girl. It happens to me all the time and i find it hard to stay in the adult me.
I hope this works out for you. Know that you can talk to him about how this affects you, over and over, until you feel safer about it. He seems like a wonderful T and you are doing such good work together.
All the best,
Frida
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