Posted by frida on April 17, 2008, at 8:30:03
In reply to Confused and Hurt (possible trigger)~LONG~, posted by LadyBug on April 16, 2008, at 23:25:03
Dear LadyBug,
Wow..i would feel as hurt and devastated as you do now..if the one person that means so much to me and shared so many years of my life hurt me this way.
I've seen my T for 8/9 years now. I'd be devastated if something like this happened. We've had some huge problems though, and we managed to solve them.
I guess in so many years, it is inevitable to have misunderstandings and problems. They are human..But from what I read in your post, i am really surprised..because your T was so caring towards you, and did so much for you in the past ..it seems to me that something else could be going on...
maybe there is something going on in her life and it is interfering..?I don't think i would be able to terminate such an important relationship in my life.....i would try to give it some time .... i would probably try writing to her, but it seems you've already explained to her how you feel about all this...
I am so sorry you have to go through this at this point in your life, when she should be closer to you than ever. =(I would feel that this is a bad nightmare.
I hope there is some way for you and her to work this through...
I can't understand why she'd tell you not to call, now after all these years of working together...it feels so painful. Maybe this triggered something in her, it does give me the impression there is something else going on.
Even if you "let your pain spill out all over the place"....wouldn't that be even more reason for her to be near you and support you ? I don't understand what is going on for her to say those things.
I honestly hope she also thinks this over...i hope you can work this through together and have her back as the T she was for you.
all the best,
Frida
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