Posted by Nadezda on September 23, 2008, at 22:08:59
In reply to Re: My session today and ?'s about what is therapy? » Nadezda, posted by lemonaide on September 23, 2008, at 21:37:21
I just wondered. That's all. I thought if he was in his late seventies or eighties, his slowing down would be very expectable--although of course not inevitable.
It doesn't mean anything one way or the other, though, because people can be unable to handle medical crises at different ages. While there can be unconscious reasons why you might feel abandoned right now, it's also possible that your T isn't himself. I'm not in any way casting doubt on your judgement-- any more, or less, than I would second-guess myself if I suddenly started to think there was a huge change in my T's sharpness-- when there wasn't any particular medical reason (ie one that's clear from any of his illnesses) for it.
I know my T does forget many things I've told him that seem important to me. Some people remember more concrete details from conversations than others-- so I just accept that as one of his particular characteristics. That may, as your T was noting, be something of particular importance to you, because of your background. If that's true, it may be that he isn't the right T for you now.
It might make sense, given how productive your relationship with your T is, though, either to consult someone and try to talk things through, or to wait before making any decision. But of course, if you feel that it's too painful, that's a decision that only you can make.
Nadezda
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