Posted by Wittgensteinz on October 7, 2008, at 3:06:15
In reply to Hugs » rskontos, posted by Wittgensteinz on October 7, 2008, at 2:31:32
Ok... sorry now I realise you already had your session with T - I liked what you shared of his responses - especially his humour - sometimes a bit of humorous cynicism goes a long way.
As for your FIL - what a sexist pig grrrr!!! I think they are a lost cause - the effort you make now, is it really making a difference in the way they will behave toward you/perceive you? They clearly don't see the need to make an effort i.e. not even bothering to speak English in front of you.
I hope you do pluck up the courage to take a day (more like a mid-week break) at a health resort - or anything in fact to get you out of that toxic situation.
Do you know when they will be leaving? Out of curiosity, what happens normally with them - does your MIL cook for themselves or do they live in an elderly home/get home care?
Perhaps you could try to get them to leave a little earlier? Every now and again we get this very annoying unexpected guest. He usually arrives around 10pm at night (he's a long lost old "friend" of my partner). Sometimes he phones (while he's standing in front of our house) and if we don't pick up he comes round the back of the house to check if anyone is in... grrr... we have a technique in place to make the visits as short as possible...
One of us disappears upstairs and turns the heating down, the other turns all the lights up on full so the house is uncomfortably cold and bright.
Perhaps you could do something similar... serve food you know they won't like or that is very bad for their heart/cholestral... if they complain, simply deny it "it's not cold - it must be your old age... it's swelteringly hot in here"...
Or perhaps you MIL has a fear of spiders or rats? Now would be the perfect time to purchase that pet tarantula you've always dreamed of having?
Turn the hot water off while they are taking a shower and wait for the screams?? Offer to do their washing and *accidentally* wash your FIL's white shirts with something bright red. If you have family pets, let one of them have an *accident* in one of their shoes.
Ok, but seriously, please put your health first - don't be bullied into doing things that you are not happy with. Your DH and your parents in law are being utterly unreasonable and I'm very sorry for that :(
Witti
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