Posted by lucie lu on October 11, 2008, at 22:35:05
In reply to Re: I'm feeling so down these days, posted by DAisym on October 11, 2008, at 17:39:53
> Is there some big anniversary coming up or just past that might be triggering these feelings? I think the transition to Fall is often hard - almost like we have to let go of summer and get back to work in the "real" world. I'm sure all the bad news and state of the economy aren't helping.
Actually, I hadn't been thinking about it as a factor in all this, but someone I have worked with closely for a number of years is leaving for another job. Her office will be empty, since there is a hiring freeze on. I have known about this for months but she's actually leaving this week. If I allowed myself to think about it, I would feel very, very sad. She was a work-friend but a good friend nonetheless. Our kids grew up together, lots of shared history at work and at home. It will be hard to continue the relationship since she is leaving the area. Thanks for bringing up the issue of timing. Obviously I really need to process her leaving, and I haven't yet.
> I'm sure you may have already looked at some of these things but...
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> Perhaps adding in 10 minutes more of stretching or outdoor exercise each day would help. Walking outside allows you to get fresh air and the sunlight that is so important to ward off depression.A major part of my FM treatment is daily exercise, and I spend about an hour most days in the pool doing laps and exercises. But you are right, that doesn't get me in the daylight. I do have a tendency for SAD, so falls can be shaky for me, despite the beauty of the season. I should make a point to take midday breaks and get out in the sun for a short walk or something.
> Are you eating less fruit and veggies because the seasons are changing? Or do you have Halloween candy around already? I'm surprised by the role that sugar can play with our mental health.
Well, Halloween hasn't come yet ;) but I do try to eat healthy. In part because otherwise I gain wait from the meds I take. But I might sneak a couple of candy bars from the treat-or-treaters. You're right though about the sugar.
> And it sounds like you might be a bit lonely right now too - kids busy, hubby grumpy, friends overwhelmed. Is there any play time built into your week? Having a good girlfriend is really important - even if you aren't venting, I think women need women to feel whole.
So right again...
> My other thought was how about letting yourself really need your therapist as much as you need him for the next month? Perhaps if you give yourself permission, and a time limit, you can relax around it a little bit. Think of it as an experiment.
I would love to see him more often, but a problem right now is that my insurance coverage has run out for the year. And my T visits are a source of contention with my DH. But I can call him more often. He's always OK with that. He feels that my being able to ask him to call is a good thing for me to learn. I, on the other hand, find it very hard to ask, even though I know he won't refuse or be annoyed with me. So in this context, maybe it would be a good thing to work on again now.
> I hope you feel better soon.Thank you, Daisy, I always appreciate your thoughtful posts.
Lucie
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