Posted by B2chica on December 12, 2008, at 8:46:12
In reply to Have to chill for a while..., posted by lucie lu on December 11, 2008, at 18:37:58
First i would compare what you had to go through with your mom with your own children. i think they aren't viewing it as a burden, something they NEED to do. i think they are very caring loving children who care about their mother and needed to say something.
and as for what they can handle or what they want to hear. maybe discuss it with your T. and dont worry about what THEY want to hear. it's more a matter of what you feel you need or want to tell THEM...this is your stuff. and if not revealing it right now is best then dont feel pressured to do anything more. ok?
and about the 'leftovers, no cleaning"...etc.
well welcome to my home honey :^)
seriously though i have bouts, one week every dinner is new and exciting, house clean kiddo taken fully care of emotionally and physically.
other weeks, it's chicken nuggets or fish sticks, mac and cheese with hot dogs, or the like. and possibly even somewhat sticky floors...eww i know.
but i've learned to let my tide ebb and flow as i need.
i MUST take care of the emotional side first. if i'm healthy emotionally, i am MUCH better able to care properly for my familly. remember messy to you isn't necessarily a disaster area or hazardous. and as for food, as long as you are offering Something...i woudn't worry about it. heck half the time when you go all out they decide their not hungry and have two bites anyway right?
honestly somedays when i really bad off i just think, "well at least DD had two good meals at daycare today"...then i don't feel so guilty about the mac and cheese.i AM glad to hear you are meeting with T (well today).
maybe sifting some of this out with T will help ease you.
i'm so sorry things are so rough right now. but you are incredibly strong. just hang on to T and us! we'll make sure you get through it k?!be good to yourself.
b2c.
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