Posted by fleeting flutterby on December 18, 2008, at 18:26:28
In reply to Re: Is therapy just blowing smoke up our a*s?, posted by Nadezda on December 18, 2008, at 16:54:29
>>> It's not as if caring is a limited commodity for which patients compete. ......... It's not a competition to be the most cared about, or to make sure that everyone else gets less, so that you can get the most. <<<-----Oh my gosh!!! this ^^ up there.... that is my childhood with my mother-- exactly!! caring WAS a limited commodity with her!! she had seven children, spaning 18 years. Some where pregnant teens while others had learning problems in elementary school and still others--myself-- were in need of being held and fed and bathed. She couldn't deal with ONE let alone seven!
It WAS a competition for us all at home to be THE ONE that mother would care about. As adults we have all moved away from each other and are not close-- the competition is still in play.... I SO DESPISE COMPETITION!! I can't handle being measured-- like how many posts one has made and such..... whoa-- puts me in a tail spin of triggers and defense.
Oops... sorry Looney Tunes, kind of went off on my own tangent. *blushes*..... well, maybe you had similar expereince growing up-- where caring was withheld and given only under conditions..... that could explain the wanting T. to ourselves.
argh... now I'm all revved up-- feel a need to be defensive....... feeling unsafe.... :o(
flutterby- mandy
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