Posted by Dinah on January 29, 2009, at 12:10:37
In reply to 'Can I change your appt? Something came up', posted by MusicLuv on January 29, 2009, at 11:20:36
I think you should talk to her about it honestly and as nonconfrontationally as possible. Tell her how you feel when she fails to express regret or makes it sounds as if the lack of a session is due to you.
She may not be aware of the words she's using and the impression it gives, particularly if she was busy and distracted when she called.
If it's part of a greater problem with her apathy, you could mention that and ask how she is viewing therapy, the therapy relationship, and the remaining course of therapy.
I think if you otherwise find her helpful, it's worth trying to discuss these things openly.
Just my two cents, and easier said than done, I know. But it's what I find useful in my own therapy.
My therapist and I were discussing something from the past the other day. He came to the brilliant conclusion that something he used to habitually do would often result in clients leaving sooner than they might otherwise do. I reminded him that I told him at the time it was a problem, and he replied that no one else had complained. Just me. I told him that the others just hadn't said so, and he should appreciate my candor and listen to what I say since I am honest.
I'm sure he's not the only therapist who overlooks these things.
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