Posted by sunnydays on January 31, 2009, at 14:00:34
In reply to Questions about your T, posted by Looney Tunes on January 31, 2009, at 13:22:15
> So since I am really struggling with my T and am trying to figure out if my issues are "normal" here are some questions that if you all could answer would be helpful. -- Thanks so much!
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> 1) How long have you been with CURRENT T? Did you have a previous T?I have been with him for almost exactly four years. I had a previous T for 2.5 years when I was a teenager.
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> 2) Is your T male or female?male
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> 3) What is the orientation of your T? Did you know when you started with T?still can't give you an exact answer, but probably eclectic - we talk about trauma and attachment, he has mentioned relational analysis, he is trained in EMDR (but we haven't done it), he does substance abuse counseling (but I don't abuse substances), and he throws in a healthy dose of CBT once in a while (which I hate).
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> 4) Are you older, younger, or same age as T?
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much younger - he could be my father> 5) What type of transference have you experienced? Do you think it is limited by your T's age or gender?
>parental - I don't think it's limited by much other than that my issues involve trauma with my parents, although the age difference certainly helps
> 6) Do you look at your T? How frequently? (I mean literally at their face when talking)
>I look at T sometimes when I'm not talking, seldom (a few times a session, more at the beginning before we're too deep) when I'm speaking, and a lot when he's speaking.
> 7) What is your greatest fear of your T?
>that he will leave me, dump me, or in some other way abandon me
> 8) Do you just let yourself "be" in T? Or are you composed and careful?
>depends on the day - I think by now I try to let myself just be in T, but there are times when I am definitely more careful and/or composed than I need to be
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> Now, I know since someone is going to ask about me:
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> 1) I have been with current T about 5-6 months
> I had a previous T for 3.5 years. And a couple of T's when I was a kid (foster care).
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> 2) T is male. Which I can't believe I can even sit in the same room, but he is very non-scary.
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> 3) I don't know. T is "psychodyamically" trained, but does object relations, EMDR, etc. Kind of eclectic. I had no idea what T did, I was referred.
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> 4) I am late 20s; T is 40ish. I wish T was older.
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> 5) Parental transference; although I am SOOO embarassed because T is not old enough to be my parent; sibling tranference; transference about abandonment and rejection; again completely embarrassed.
> I think transference would be more intense if T was older, because I try and keep it hidden because he is not old enough to be my parent.
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> 6) I NEVER look at T (that I know of). He keeps saying "look at me LT" but I can't.
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> 7)I think T is going is disappear (he doesn't know though)
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