Posted by rskontos on February 17, 2009, at 20:28:56
In reply to Re: Update » yellowbird01, posted by seldomseen on February 17, 2009, at 18:35:36
I think that while she, your T, thinks she is being a therapist and discussing the dx. she is actually doing more to undermine your
relationship.From what I know, about BPD, would be that your behavior if you were BPD, that once your boyfriend did something wrong, like breakup with you or say he did not want to see you anymore, you would turn on him like a mad woman. YOu did not do this. You have been coping with very well. A BPD would then turn and get so fixated on the therapist or someone else until that person did something wrong etc etc.
I know you have a close relationship with your T but I don't hear an unhealthy amount of transference which I believe is the behavior of BPD, almost like an obsession versus transference.
All of this I think is more of a reason to wonder. Besides, I don't think hanging on to the necklace is an "ahhh, see that is obsessive behavior", and that means you have personality disorder. It means he gave you a necklace during a breakup and you just could not think about what to do with it at that moment.
I think she, your t, should keep this situation with boyfriend out of dxing sessions. It seems so unproductive.
And for why, what is the reason to have you two argue about it. Is that really necessary?
Seems to me it is taking away from the real therapy. Right now, it is getting over a bad break from someone you loved. period.
I am sorry yellowbird. I think your therapist is not really dealing with the what's that happened but something else.
take care, it is good to hear how you are doing things for yourself.
rsk
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