Posted by lucie lu on February 20, 2009, at 12:54:14
In reply to Re: Why when you quit T does it hurt so much?, posted by backseatdriver on February 19, 2009, at 19:09:48
I'm really sorry you are feeling bad, LT. I think BSD's post made some great points and offered good advice.Some losses are necessary or even beneficial. But you still feel the loss.
I think that even when a T relationship doesn't work out, it represents a loss. If nothing else, you had hopes when you started that may not have been fulfilled. You also made an investment in time, money, and yourself, yet it still didn't work out. You may blame yourself for some part of the loss of the relationship, which also would hurt. And last but not least, the loss can trigger memories of previous ones. I remember there were too many in your past, LT, so it would be pretty surprising if you didn't feel some of them echoing around this. It is probably important for you to acknowledge those feelings so you can move on. There are a world of relationships waiting for you out there, including those with new Ts if you want to try again. Your next one may be great. Hopefully you will have identified what did and didn't work out this time, and that will help you in the future. The pain will fade, and you will be stronger for working your way through it. Be kind to yourself.
Take care, Lucie
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