Posted by DAisym on March 30, 2009, at 15:32:41
In reply to Re: First 3 words in a session?, posted by vwoolf on March 30, 2009, at 14:11:08
I think it would be a good discussion to say to your therapist, "starting is hard for me. I'd like more help with that. I know it this is my therapy but can't we work together on this?" It seems to me that you are paying her to help you. Is she really that concerned about who talks that she'll let it impede the session?
I would mention how it makes you stressed and about wasting time and money by struggling with the opening. It would be easy to get fixed in a power battle around this. Some of the "rules" of therapy are more flexible than others.
Often my therapist opens with, "so how are you?" or he'll say, "are you writing? What are you writing about?" These get us to the important stuff usually pretty quickly.
But I agree with everyone else, there are no real right or wrong ways to start. My son's therapist has said, "imagine you are driving home - what are you going to wish you'd said." I thought that was a clever opening or way to break a silence.
Good luck and welcome to Babble.
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