Posted by raisinb on April 14, 2009, at 21:38:28
In reply to Why now? Why the crush flare up again?, posted by FindingMyDesire on April 14, 2009, at 0:14:11
After a couple of years of struggling with similar feelings, I came to a motto for myself: "Before you analyze, accept."
Because I analyzed out of fear and a wish to make the (what I saw as) shameful, unacceptable feelings go away. Then I realized that wouldn't get me anywhere. It was a way to avoid accepting big parts of myself.
I think for a lot of my feelings, once I accept them and let them "be," the "why" becomes much clearer.
But it might be different for you. It sounds like your therapist is dealing with the feelings in a wonderful way, and I'm sure you two together will get to an answer.
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