Posted by FindingMyDesire on April 20, 2009, at 20:41:54
I'm sure this has been discussed before in some fashion.
I have recently been sharing the fact that I post to this board with my T. I haven't shared any content, specifics, or the name of the board, etc. but just that I participate. I have told her how helpful it is to be supported and not feel so alone. I have told her how totally wonderful it can be if I feel like I actually help someone else - especially if they are struggling with something similar to me. She was, as always, supportive and nonjudgmental.
However, or more accurately, "and" she had some interesting things to say about the "magic", intimacy, sacredness of the therapeutic relationship and wondered whether posting here "diffused" some of this. What do you all think about that? Have you heard about that from your Ts before?
I have certainly experienced the feeling of trying to explain my relationship with my T to someone and them totally not getting it. It seems to just add to the pile of times I have not been seen. On this board that can happen, but maybe I figure statistically it's less likely. Not so much because we all can relate or understand each other, but just because we have the consciousness to know we don't and yet we can listen, support, etc. I guess I'm mostly drawn here when I'm struggling with my attachment issues with my T and want to hear that others do too.
I think she would gently suggest (not that posting here is at all wrong) that the best thing for my work would be to take my struggle to her. Of course. I think we all tend to encourage each other to do this.
So, what about this idea of "diffusing?" What do you think?
Cheers,
FMD
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