Posted by raisinb on May 30, 2009, at 10:47:07
In reply to Re: here's the message she left, posted by Dinah on May 29, 2009, at 23:49:24
Don't apologize, Dinah! You're not being cold-blooded and your analysis was completely helpful.
Of course I wouldn't think less of you for calling your therapist in such a situation. Maybe it isn't self-respect. Maybe it's boundaries. I have a deep conviction somewhere about how much I am willing to do in a relationship and how much the other person should do. I think it should overall be equal. Right now, I've done enough work to try and be connected to someone who isn't that interested or motivated (at the moment) to be connected to me.
As for what she understands, I've said how I feel about this issue about a thousand times. If she doesn't understand now, it's because she refuses, and there's nothing I can do about that.
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