Posted by fleeting flutterby on June 25, 2009, at 9:58:44
In reply to Re: is anyone around? » onceupon, posted by Dinah on June 25, 2009, at 0:39:39
> I think I'm trying my best, but I have no confidence that my choices are the right ones.
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> If she was miserable, it might be clearer. But my mother is perfectly happy. Her brother seems perfectly happy. Her neighbors aren't happy, and I try to minimize her impact on them.
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> If I intervened more strongly (assuming I could which I doubt), who would be happier? Not my mother, not my uncle, possibly her neighbors, but possibly not. I know not me.<<---flutterby: Sorry you are going through a rough time.
I was wondering if your mother has dementia or alzeheimers? (sp?)--such people can be oblivious to their problems and quite happy..... I've heard they can have conspiracy theories, delusions and horrible rage-- starting with verbally and eventually escalating to physical rage. maybe your mother, if things get where she is in danger, would benefit by living in an assisted living place? I don't know your mother's age but they take people, for such care, as young as 55, I believe(maybe even younger).If she is functioning-- eating and cleaning herself, not causing fires or other life threatening things, then it seems there's not much one can do. People can "talk" crazy all day long-- it's their actions that usually result in dire measures to be taken.
caution***--- this may trigger some -- ********like ----
if your mom tried to jump out of a speeding car or held a knife to her stomach threatening to kill herself because you hurt her feelings. (my mother's got some issues)all you can do is your best-- whether your choices are the right ones or not-- your best is your best and for that you should be proud.
my heart is with you
flutterby-mandy
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