Posted by Daisym on August 6, 2009, at 0:43:53
In reply to Re: Managing a therapeutic relationship » emilyp, posted by obsidian on August 5, 2009, at 22:41:49
I think the real truth is that the relationship built in therapy is often your relationship with your self and to your life. What we long for from our therapists is really what we long for in our life - if there was another to get it from, we most likely would. It is, as someone said, a huge risk, outside those walls.
That said, I think the most important thing you can do to minimize the angst is to populate your days and weeks and weekends with people you can be real with. That is one of the real benefits of therapy - being able to be real. If you can figure out how to have that with others - you don't "need" your therapist to carry it all. And I think it is incredibly important to have fun. Find fun, make fun - do those easy, light things. Therapy is heavy and deep. Try going light and see how much relief there is in that.
And it has been said many times, but the more you can bring yourself to talk about all your feelings for your therapist, with your therapist, the easy those feelings are to manage. When we have to guess how our therapists feel, what they are doing and what their future plans are, we drive ourselves crazy.
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