Posted by Emily Elizabeth on October 13, 2009, at 19:08:47
In reply to Your opinion please!, posted by rnny on October 12, 2009, at 21:22:55
Welcome to Babble!
Perhaps I am misunderstanding, but the way I read your post, it sounds like your new T is choosing to be supportive of you rather than being supportive of your old T. Perhaps she feels that it would be unsupportive of you to be critical of your decision to reinitiate contact with your mother. I think she is trying to empower you by telling you that it is your choice rather than telling you what to do.
I also think that some T's are less directive than others. Perhaps new T is less directive.
As for your general question, about whether T's continue the work of the previous T, I think it depends on the situation. You wouldn't want your new T to follow exactly what your old T did because then she wouldn't be being authentic to her own style and how she relates to you. I think T's can have more of a real relationship with you when they are themselves in the session.
As for the silence in the hallway, this is pretty common. Some T's don't ask "How are you?" as soon as they see you, because it is fake. We all know that we are supposed to respond "Fine," even when we are not. But a T wants to know how you REALLY are and for depth like that you need to be in the room.
I hope my post makes sense. I'm having a hard time getting my words out. Welcome to babble. Hope something I said was helpful!
Best,
EE
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