Posted by pegasus on November 19, 2010, at 11:05:54
In reply to Re: Beyond angry with friend... *mild csa trigger* » obsidian, posted by yellowbird01 on November 18, 2010, at 23:34:43
Wow. And how can your boyfriend not also be furious. Doesn't anyone care about that little girl besides you? I don't get it when people want to handle situations like this "casually". I mean, it sounds entirely possible that this little girl was subjected to abuse the other night, or at least was put in the care of her previous perpetrator. And all because her mom was in denial and desperate for a babysitter. It is completely not OK.
And what a terrible position for you to be in. You - not being the mom in the situation - should not have to choose between protecting a 6 year old and protecting your relationship with the man you love. Can you talk this over with your boyfriend at a time when you are not fuming? I mean, if he's a reasonable guy, wouldn't he understand what a horrible position you are in? Can he respect that protecting this poor kid, who is not being protected by her mom, is your top priority, even over damaging relationships with his family. But that you'd rather find a way to protect her without damaging all of those relationships? Seems like he could help you do that. At least, he could point out to his sister, in a way that she will hear, that if CPS finds out about this type of thing, she could lose custody of her daughter. And maybe more importantly, he could point out that the abuse might really have happened, even if the kid is currently saying it didn't.
Let us know what happens. I'm horrified along with you.
- P
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