Posted by Dinah on May 2, 2013, at 3:48:22
In reply to Re: I spoke to him » Dinah, posted by SLS on May 1, 2013, at 13:42:03
> You do an excellent job of putting words together on PB. Are you always less able to do this IRL, or only in front of your T?
I have always found Babble an excellent aide to doing this IRL. Not only in crafting the original post but in thinking about the replies. The joys of asynchronous communications. At the moment, I tend to get stuck in my thinking. I'm thinking about the fact that I don't like scales, and wondering how to answer, and feeling resentful about being pressured, and don't have time to think about thinking. If that makes sense.
I don't think I can describe the scale in any real detail. It was too linked to the discussion and to the situation. I'm not sure it would have any general application. However, I think one key may have been my understanding that his interest was not so much in absolutes or placing my experiences globally. So that to some extent, it didn't matter what my answer meant in absolute terms. What mattered to him was how it changed.
Although I still must say that I think it would be far easier for me to simply answer "not as bad as this time, but worse than that time".
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