Posted by Willful on July 16, 2013, at 11:27:11
In reply to second therapist for help with primary therapist, posted by winsome on July 16, 2013, at 4:41:14
Consultations with second therapists can be useful, I"ve heard, when difficulties arise between a patient and therapist. But it might be good to discuss it with your therapist a bit. If you feel that it would be helpful, you could call around to people he recommends-- or if you have another source of recommendations of course using that also-- and see whether someone feels comfortable in taking that role.
I suppose you could do it on your own, without your therapist's knowledge and involvement, if there's a serious disruption between you. But the issue seems to be less in the relationship than in the concrete conditions. So I hope you could do it with him/her.
By the way, although skype is not as good as in-person meeting-- perhaps you will find over time that it has certain virtues. Almost everything has pluses and minuses-- after you get used to it. I've had sessions with my therapist over the phone, without skype, when I"ve been away for periods of time, and those are very helpful. Of course, it would be hard on a long term basis-- but depending on the relationship, it might even be worth it to do that.
In fact, my T does that now-- since he doesn't like skype for some reason. He has several long term patients that have moved away, but still keep seeing him with the use of the telephone alone. You might be be surprised, if you did make that shift, that you can adapt and draw as much, or almost as much, from a different connection as the one you're used to.
Is it possible that some of your difficulty with skype comes from having trouble just accepting that your T is moving at all-- and not wanting to have to deal with the disruption or loss-- and having to work so hard to reconnect? I think I would have a lot of feelings about that-- and you say it's a difficult thing-- so maybe you haven't resolved all of the feelings of being abandoned or something like that? I can totally see feeling that your T is suddenly not reliable and wanting to go find someone else to rely on or to have some sort of back up-- in coping with what he's unilaterally done.
Disruptions are a very hard thing to have to cope with, but sometimes overcoming them can strengthen a relationship.
I hope it works out for you--
Willful
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