Posted by Dr. Bob on August 6, 2013, at 4:19:58
In reply to Re: do you think of therapy as having a goal?, posted by rjlockhart37 on August 5, 2013, at 23:42:14
> I don't think it is very easy to predict the ultimate destination where achieving a set of goals will bring someone
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> - Scott> At this point, I have no real goals but still feel emotionally needy for him. I guess my goal is to keep cutting back on the frequency of our sessions until I can imagine life without him.
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> baseball55> Even if you say-- which is questionable-- that you understand why you do things-- or, less questionable, have a clearer awareness of what you do that's problematic-- the looming issue always seems to be-- how to not-need to do them.
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> Willful> my opinion: think there's 2 types of theapy, talk theapy that you just can vent emotions, and learn more about yourself in general, then others are more goal directed like CBT which more of self imrovement
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> rjlockhart37I like the distinctions that Scott and RJ made. If the idea were to vent or to learn about oneself, it's not clear when one would terminate. OTOH, if one had a more specific goal, one might consider terminating after reaching it. And setting goals, as opposed to an ultimate destination, could have a couple advantages:
1. it would be one step at a time, so it might feel more doable
2. acceptance of the actual ultimate destination might be more likely
Would you consider the following goals or ultimate destinations?
a. not feeling emotionally needy
b. being able to imagine life without someone
c. not needing to do certain things> most people would love to be seen by the world.
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> alexandra_kSome do. Others feel terrified by the prospect.
Bob
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