Posted by alexandra_k on December 23, 2013, at 22:47:04
In reply to Re: Avoidant Attachement Disorder » stargazer2, posted by baseball55 on December 23, 2013, at 21:19:37
> > I project, perhaps, an air of independence but in doing so that is typical of the avoidant attachment disorder. I am actally very dependent and independence is just a facade to keep people away.
i am like this, too.
i don't get attached very easily... and some people i just can't seem to attach to... but when i actually do attach to someone i am a lot scared about just how small and frightened and needy and dependent and... helpless i feel.
i don't like feeling like that... so mostly i don't like to get attached. a lot of the time i feel that there is something wrong with me that i can't feel attached to people... like some therapists i've worked with, who were nice and all... but i just didn't quite click properly with them...
i found what baseball is saying... about attaching to a therapist. about feeling those feelings with them in... hopefully... what is a safe environment.
i think there is something in... well.. this idea of developmental delay or something like that. taking the time to feel those dependent feelings in an environment of safety and... seeing how those feelings develop and grow over time.
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