Posted by Dr. Bob on February 9, 2014, at 23:43:40
In reply to asking a 'Narcissist' for help, posted by g_g_g_unit on February 7, 2014, at 8:56:37
> One thing I miss about my old psychiatrist/therapist is that he was willing to offer hands-on advice ... I have a tendency to get 'sucked into' arguments -- laying my whole self-worth on the line -- and he gave me some useful strategies for disengaging.
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> I discontinued a medication 10 weeks ago and have been suffering from some kind of awful, persistent restlessness (or akathisia) that has left me house-bound, and otherwise bed-bound.
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> I lack any kind of negotiating/assertiveness skills whatsoever. I managed to get to the emergency room, and, instead of standing up for myself and asking to see a psychiatrist or neurologist, politely agreed when the doctor said it was anxiety and sent me home.
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> My mother has a tendency to deny, negate, downplay or obfuscate any requests for help beyond *her* immediate capabilities.
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> I need some kind of help getting to a doctor. I need financial assistance to see a neurologist (we aren't well off, but it isn't completely beyond their means, particularly when it's becoming so bad).
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> Knowing a quick fix is impossible, how do I possibly broach the issue with an infant-parent and avoid them lashing out? How do I convey the gravity of the situation without them diminishing it, or making it all about them?What I hear you saying is you'd like strategies to help you see a psychiatrist or neurologist (and to disengage from your mother). Is there a friend or other family member who would go back to the ER with you and support you in being assertive?
Bob
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