Posted by sar on March 8, 2002, at 10:09:13
In reply to Re: How can I stop being a hermit?, posted by mist on March 7, 2002, at 23:12:59
there's that semi-corny maxim that says something like, "To have a friend, you must be a friend." i'm somewhat a hermit myself, but i frequent the same places regularly (cafes, the library, the dry cleaner, etc) and find myself talking to people who talk to me first. i wouldn't call these people "friends" necessarily, but recently a cafe manager that i've acquainted myself with has comped me free lunches until i get my paycheck, my dry cleaner sometimes hooks me up w/ bargains, and my neighbors recently gave me some furniture they didn't use anymore.
initially, i didn't want to talk with these people. but once you do, it's a delight... :)
we had a thread going awhile back in which some wise person said that she didn't go to a dance class (or something) "looking for friends." that woulda been kinda gimpy. she was just there to practice her dance technique, practice it hard, and she accidentally ended up talking to people.
on the thread we all agreed (i think) that it's best not to try too hard.
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