Posted by Phil on May 28, 2002, at 7:11:33
In reply to Dumped and Depressed, posted by KB on May 28, 2002, at 5:55:43
He did you a favor by at least telling you. Believe me, he could have married you and screwed around for 20 years..it happens. It's hard right now but who would want a jerk like that? You think he'll stay monogamous, hehehe. No f'ing way.
Never put the 2 before the 1. Being suicidal over a relationship tells me one thing: it wasn't ever healthy to begin with.
I've been reading a book, Don't Call It Love, about sexual addiction. Probably not your case but it is a great book for anyone.
Their is a 'pool' of people in this world that attract each other and both are very unhealthy. I am attracted, unconsciously, to women that screw around, lie. The worse they treat me, it seems the more I want them. It is a sick dance.
Grieve it, get over it, don't spend too much time alone, and 'most of all'..thank God you aren't the other woman.
He disrespected you and treated you like dirt. Once the hurt wears off, you'll realize the son of a b*tch was never in your league.I'm almost 49, single all my life, and I am qualified to speak about this.
Let him go. Don't call him, no matter what! If he calls for any reason, say you have plans and can't talk. It's hard to do, I know, but don't put another person in control of your life.
Work on yourself and you will find someone who loves and respects you for who you are. If they don't, it won't effect you because you take care of yourself and know you're worth more than that.
When you're in the thick of it, it's hard to hear these words, and you deserve to grieve. But keep it in perspective and remember..he cheated on you.
He will continue to cheat on her. If you ignore him(smart), he'll try to see you for 'fun' while he's with this woman. At least, that's the common modus operandi(sp).
KB, believe it or not, you are THE good one AND the lucky one, f*ck him and the horse he rode in on!GRRRRRR, I hate bottom-feeders,
Phil
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