Posted by Susan J on September 24, 2003, at 9:34:10
In reply to Re: Anyone Know Anything about PostPartum Depression? » Susan J, posted by Dinah on September 24, 2003, at 9:10:14
Dinah,
Thank you, that's good to know.
>>but it left me with an extremely negative view of myself as a wife and mother.
<<She has never bonded with their son, not at all. Her parents were horrible. Alcoholic father left when she was 9 or so, and mother kicked her out when she was 16 because the mother's live-in boyfriend didn't want kids around. So sis-in-law has some issues, which I thought she had dealt with admirably. She has told me she accepts her mother as she is, cuz I'd personally still be *really* angry if it were me.But maybe that's not so true. Sis-in-law also said she'd be the perfect mother since her mother was horrible, so of course she has set up this impossible standard. And here she is, not really caring for her son, and probably hating herself for it.
I wish I could talk to her, tell her it's perfectly normal to feel these feelings, but that therapy/meds/medical check up would really help....but it's so raw right now, I doubt my brother would want me to talk to her.
Arrrgh. Thanks for letting me vent. My brother is devastated, as is my family. If she confronts what is bothering her and tries to fix it, I know he'd stand by her every step of the way....
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