Posted by TexasChic on April 27, 2004, at 8:41:57
In reply to Re: My friend's annoying boyfriend, posted by gardenergirl on April 27, 2004, at 1:23:28
Thanks everybody for your input. It really helped give me the courage to talk to her, which I did last night. It went pretty well, I told her exactly how I felt, that I don't think I can be around him anymore, and since he won't let us hang out alone, I don't know what to do. She told me first of all, she really values our friendship, and there is no way she would let him get away with driving me away. She then told me he doesn't control her like that, and that I can declare girl night anytime I want. She also said, yes, he is offensive, he's an offensive guy, but that she seems to be the only one that can see that beneath that he's a really sweet guy. She said she had no idea that I was so offended by him saying "enough" like that, apparently she thought it was an appropriate response because we were talking during the movie. Then she decided on a sign for me to give her when I feel he's just really gone too far, and then she will set him straight. She also said she would make a concentrated effort not to do the making out thing. She said she knows he's possessive and codependent, and apparently she's letting that slide (don't ask me why). I still feel like things aren't resolved, but are at least better and out in the open. The one thing that bothered me is she said he is as annoyed by me as I am by him. I've gone above and beyond to be nice to him and have overlooked many things. I don't know if I'm offended that he apparently talks about how I annoy him to her, or if its just that nothing I could do would ever satisfy him. I guess I'll just have to deal with that as I go along. Thanks again for everyone's support.
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