Posted by Fallen4MyT on April 27, 2004, at 18:40:50
In reply to Re: please be civil, posted by spoc on April 27, 2004, at 17:05:08
Spoc I am lost as to how you were uncivil..One could make a case for why saying WE are wrong OR our perception is not right that in itself could be seen as attacking those of us who have or do feel shunned. A LOT of people have said that...we all cant be wrong...I could name about 7 people's screen names (BUT WON'T) who never miss a reply to one another's posts this is what I am talking about...yet they miss or ignore a post STARTED by another poster..thats a clique to my knowledge. I too do not reply to all posts and all threads..no time AND not enough knowledge in some areas and so on....and I do not do "me too". I do not think everyone needs to post to every thread...as Dr Bob I think it was stated that can cause stress..or maybe it was a screen name I dont know who said it..say a social anxiety but being honest with oneself some people may need to look at themselves a bit more and see if they may be ignoring others just to post to a few close buddies...I cannot see that as good for anyone..Just my opinion
> > I'm sorry if you've felt neglected here, but I need to ask you not to post anything that could lead others to feel accused....
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> <<<< This is one of the selective applications of a PBC, because it is not typical that one is issued when only general board matters are being discussed. This subject may be more sensitive for you than some, but consistency in applying the principles should still be used. Monumental debates and disagreements have taken place on this board at times, with people expressing much disillusionment about it *and* general poster habits. People rarely get PBC-ed unless someone disses or alludes to a particular person. Inconsistent application is not a new or unique thing for someone to point out, but it warrants the explanations that are requested.
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> > It tends to be more civil to talk about how you feel than what others do, for example, by using I-statements...>
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> <<<<< I walked the fine line, balanced what I said, did not get personal, and did not come off like it's made to look with those clips.
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