Posted by Tamar on October 26, 2005, at 8:59:15
In reply to **NOT** good enough..please help me understand, posted by jay on October 26, 2005, at 8:08:43
> OK...Pity-Party time....This seems to be the story of my life. I am so damn hurt, bent, broken by this..."not good enough for this...or that....didn't do this right...or that right..". This is a MAJOR part of my depression, and I think even my suicidality at times.
(((((Jay)))))
> See, I was born with a developmental handicap, and was 'slow' in school and such, so I had to work three times as hard as everyone else just to get 'average' marks.
At one time kids were just written off as failures before they’d ever had a chance to reach their full potential. And if stuff like that happened to you, I can imagine you would feel you won’t ever be good enough. But you’re in a respected job now, aren’t you? You did really well!
> I was overweight, and 'girls' just have never been interested in me. Whenever I strike up a friendship with a gal, and on the odd chance ask her out to a movie, it's like I had commited the worst, hideous act in the world!!! Then I started losing my hair when I was young, and got taunted and picked on about that.
If women are turning you down in a mean way, they’re probably not the sort of women you’d enjoy dating. I’m sure you’ve heard it before, but it’s true. And being somewhat bald and overweight doesn’t make you unattractive. If you want to improve your chances with women, the only thing you need to change is your attitude (easier said than done, but possible in a way that changing your hairline isn’t). Women tend to like men who are confident, funny and romantic. I am sure you can be all those things! It’s hard to be confident when you feel you’re not good enough, but there are ways to improve your confidence. And you’re definitely funny. And I’ve seen some of your posts that implied you have a romantic side. I’m sure that with a bit more confidence you’ll have women lining up for a date with you!
> I like to write music that everyone else hates but me.
So you’re creative. Maybe they just don’t appreciate your music! You like it; do it for yourself.
> I'm a left handed kid forced to live in a right handed world.
Yeah. Not much way around that one. Although… it can have advantages in bed…
Sorry if I sound like the eternal optimist; I don’t want to annoy you. But you’re obviously a good guy and yet you’re so hard on yourself.
I hope things get better for you soon.
Tamar
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