Posted by TexasChic on August 3, 2006, at 22:40:32
In reply to Re: I have serious problems... » cloudydaze, posted by TexasChic on August 3, 2006, at 22:13:16
> It is absolutely a manipulative thing - she's used it on me for years. She loves to have control over me. I think this is partially the reason I've had trouble functioning as an adult. But i think she would kick me out if she got mad enough.
I can completely identify with that, although I know your child figures into the equation in a way I probably couldn't even comprehend. The one thing I learned though, is being out from under your mother’s thumb, even if you're struggling and depending on food stamps and even food pantry's, can feel better than you could ever imagine possible. The single best thing I ever did for myself was to get out on my own. I had been convinced I wasn't capable, inside and outside, but finally just I did it anyway, without the slightest guarantee I would succeed. And you know what, I found out you figure it out as it goes along. There were times I thought I would be evicted and lose my car, but I did what had to be done and worked an unbelievably crappy job for a little of nothing, & I made it through. And now I know I can take care of myself no matter what.
One good thing for you is there's all kinds of things out there to help single mothers. Go to your college counselors, planned parenthood, something you find in the phonebook or on the internet, it doesn't matter as long as you never give up. You have to keep trying no matter what, because there’s no other choice. You will find a way if you keep trying. I sincerely believe that if you NEVER STOP TRYING, you WILL eventually succeed.
Okay, end of lecture now. I don’t know if this helps in the slightest, I just wish I could transfer the things I’ve learned into the heads of people who haven’t experienced it yet. That way they can skip alot of crappy stuff. But, crappy stuff makes you stronger and more experienced... believe me, I know.
I believe everything happens for a reason, and if you pursue a positive life, you will achieve a positive life. Just don’t stop until you do. That’s it, the trick to everything. Don’t stop until you achieve what you want out of life. Things are going to happen, really really crappy things that you think means the end, but if you keep on, and persevere, you will be a stronger person, which will enable you to achieve more than you ever thought possible.
-T
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