Posted by Kath on May 4, 2009, at 20:31:01
In reply to My Mom wants me to get married, posted by Deneb on May 2, 2009, at 18:10:35
Last time I heard, parents give us our Life & then it is Our Life. Some parents want to live THROUGH their children. Maybe they had certain hopes that their children's lives would turn out a certain way in order for them (the parents) to have certain desires fulfilled.
Maybe it's partly a cultural thing in your Mom's case.
> I don't plan on having kids, they are too much work and I like being single.
*It's your life. If you don't want kids, for Heaven's Sake, don't even THINK of having them. They ARE a lot of work & believe me, the emotional stuff involved does NOT end (from what most parents I know have said, anyway). It is a very big deal.
If you like being single, why the heck would you get married?!!!!!!!!
> My Mom said he life is incomplete while her daughters are still unmarried.
*That is very sad. It is not your job or duty to complete your mother's life, in my opinion.
> What am I supposed to do? I can't just get married. I don't even have a boyfriend. Besides, I like being single.
*You could get one of those sandwich-boards & wear it & pace up & down in front of your house....you could paint on it in huge letters:
"WANTED - Husband, so my Mom will get off my case about getting marred!"
> Is my Mom right?*What do YOU think? I think NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO.
Last time I knew, in most cases anyway, - marriage came about because 2 people happened to meet & get to know each other & became closer & eventually decided that they did NOT want to live apart, but wanted to be united forever!!!!> Do I need to get married so I don't end up sick and alone when I am old?
*Once again - I can't get my mind around "searching for a husband"!!!!!
> I guess my Mom is worrying because I am getting old now.*How old are you? People are never too old to get married, if you happened to ever meet someone who you wanted to marry & they wanted to marry you.
> My Mom also told me to not go on any more trips in the future.
*How old are you? It's really too bad you can't live apart from your Mom, if that's something that would appeal to you. Of course, parents can still be bossy even if we don't live with them.
> She told me instead of going on trips I need to be looking for a boyfriend.
*She's had her chance to live her life. You have the right to live your life for YOU. How you want. When you're single is a wonderful time to go on trips. I admire your sense of adventure going on trips!!
I haven't read any other posts & don't have time now, but I HAD to reply!!!!love, Kath
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